Daily Archives: May 29, 2013
Something many of us struggle with, including me from time to time; taking advice from others. I have learned the hard way that sometimes people do not want to hear what they need to do or should do. I love to help people but those close to me I wait until they come to me in most cases before I start giving them any ideas.
Advice can come from many sources; TV shows, books, magazine articles, counselors, friends, family, significant other, etc. The thing is, everyone one of those sources may have a different opinion. With the plethora of ideas it can certainly become overwhelming at times. We still have other ideas already in our head as well, including the possibility that there isn’t even a problem to begin with.
My advice should you choose to read is simple, stop rebelling against everyone’s ideas. People are just trying to help. You can certainly filter through all the advice with a grain of salt, but really what do you have to lose hearing people out? If your thoughts travel to thinking you’re a bad person or change is the only answer; unless that person themselves is a bad influence in your life they more often than not genuinely care. I know right now I can be stubborn from time to time, but more and more I seek the info of others, not always to fix a problem but to broaden my perspective on life’s issues and opportunities.
How many times has someone told you something that you were so against only to realize down the line they were right? For me that has happened many times, and I know that I have told people things only for them to come back and say thank you later on. That long laid out feeling is almost worst then just taking in what the person had to say to begin with. This does not happen with every situation for sure, and even though we want to figure out things on our own sometimes, what harm is it to hear someone out? What harm is it to try someone’s idea or think over the possibilities? It is all about being stubborn or just plain negative. No one is forcing you to do anything with the advice but if you show a sense of gratitude for the attempted help it is only going to be good feelings all the way around the conversation. I know there are plenty of extreme situations as far as bossy people and people that always have something to say. Those people you need to think to yourself the value that they have in your life. Ultimately if you surround yourself with good people it is common sense that you shall get mostly good advice right? All the more reason to listen to what those people have to say.
“Good advice is always certain to be ignored, but that is no reason to not give it.”
I am one of those people that might always have something to say as far as helping someone. But the more I mature the more I know when to just keep my mouth shut. When I do feel I really should say something I try to be as neutral and understanding as possible. There is different reasoning behind every situation and without knowing all the facts you cannot very well give good advice anyways, at least directly to someone. This is actually a big reason for my blog, I have so many ideas rolling around in my head and I want to share all of them. At least this way I am not forcing my views or opinions on people. All in all it is just all about many ways to be more positive in your life, and I would gladly hear anyone’s ideas on the subject of positivism!