What Everyone Else Wants!

I am a few days away from my life’s next big adventure! I am going back to work on a cruise ship again (for 2 months) but this time I will be in Alaska. A place where I have always wanted to go and I get to from an opportunity that was basically put on my lap! As I said in a previous blog I will be limited with time to write and internet to post but I assure you I will be back and I am most likely going to be shifting some of the main focuses of this blog.

It is funny how our thought process works. I am learning through the challenges of life that everything happens for a reason. The most exciting discovery is when those reasons come to light in our minds. At the time my fiancé broke it off with me 3-4 years ago I was ready to settle down and start a family but my life has changed completely, for the better I would like to add! In grained in me is a subtle shy loneliness that I successfully chip away at everyday and my new life, new adventures and new goals unfold. I could time line my whole life, the feelings are so strong but perhaps I will save that for my first book. Yes my first book…one of many goals. My biggest goal of all is to become a motivational speaker.

Fast forward to now I work at a wonderful elementary school as a teacher assistant to students with autism. What an eye opening job. I have had hard jobs before but this one moves its way toward the top of that list, however the rewards from this job sky rocket. Here I am; single, secretly fighting little loneliness spell now and again, I work around a bunch of beautiful married women (inside and out) and I work around wonderful children that just make me want my own ever day. Even though this job has been and will continue to be an amazing opportunity I ask myself through the personal torture why am I setting myself up like this: Working all around others that have everything I want.

Now wait a second, here is the crazy part. As I talk to my new friends, staff and teachers, about my adventures of travel and my life goals, they are envious of me. I realize I want what they have and they want what I have. It is crazy how life works like that. But then I take a step back and realize why life had brought me here. To meet great people of course, and try new things in my life, but the main reason I am here is to finally realize my motivational speaking career starts with these children. I want to inspire children to be all they can be and live a more positively directed life. I want to teach them that there is no benefit to bullying their fellow classmates. Make friends in school not enemies. If you know me at all you know that when I set sight on something, no matter how long it takes, I WILL MAKE IT HAPPEN. Maybe this school year maybe next but I was meant for this. It took me 34 years to figure this out but I have 70 more to make a difference in the lives of all our futures.

I realize that if I was married and had kids 3-4 years ago, there was no chance I would be working on a cruise ship, there was no chance I would have moved down to Florida, very little chance that I would have stepped out of my career as a Design Director to find my passion as a motivational speaker. All I had to do was drop the negative thoughts and listen to what life was telling me. There is great things out there and wonderful people to meet. I will meet the right one for me when I least expect it. I will be successful with my goals and like any roller coaster success story I expect to fall, I expect it to be hard, and I expect to learn a lot.

I walk through the halls of my school and every smile or hi I get, every high five or hug I receive lets me know how many young lives I am impacting already. I know my main focus is with the special need students in my class but I make it a point to connect with new students’ every day. I certainly connect with the teachers as well. The students allow me to be more connected with my goals all the time and the teachers are the ones that are opening doors for me to explore. So yes I was meant to be here at this elementary school. Some teachers are excited for their well deserved summer break and here I am off to Alaska for almost two months and I miss these kids already! I know I am where I am meant to be and I know there is still more exploring to do on my way to where I want to be. The purpose for my Alaska trip is simple, I deserve a break too! It just so happens to be a working break but you can’t beat the location or opportunity.

I am so grateful for all of my family, friends, teachers, and students that have helped me get where I am now. You may not know you have helped but know now! I am grateful for all of my blog followers and new friends from the internet that are alongside supporting my journey through life. There are big things coming in my life and I am going after all of it!


About upwithmarc

A creative mind takes no label. A positive mind sees past that which is easy to find. Find the things you love in life and share them with others. I am an artist. I am a positive thinker. I am on a quest to love everything life gives to me. On the outside I am no different then anyone else but on the inside I feel I have a lot of different things to share. My goal is to find those willing to listen. Those willing to share there thoughts in return. I have a long list of goals in my life, some I have met and all the rest I am getting closer to every day. I want to write a book, I want to be a motivational speaker, I want to own an art gallery, just to name a few.

Posted on June 20, 2015, in Personal Stories and tagged , , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 6 Comments.

  1. You talk about how everyone wants what everyone else has. The saying “The grass is greener on the other side of the fence” didn’t come out of thin air. It’s a testament to human nature, to constantly wonder what if and what could be.

    I looked up the saying and got the following:

    “It refers to the way we tend to look at other people’s lives and other things that we don’t have in general through rose colored glasses.

    It comes from the idea of looking at a neighbors lawn and seeing it as better looking, healthier and overall greener then your own when in reality you’re just ignoring anything negative about it and downplaying everything positive about your own.”

    I guess the moral of the quote is that no matter how brown you think your grass may be, your neighbor probably thinks the same about theirs with regards to yours. Instead of standing around being focused on all the brown, they need to focus on the green that is there. They need to pull out the weeds that steal nutrients from the yard, put down the appropriate fertilizer, and then water it until that brown is gone. Until all the negatives are taken care of and they are satisfied with their own yard.

    From my perspective as a married man with a daughter, when you told me about the job in Alaska I remember making the joke in front of my wife for you to get me an application too. Her reply something like “that I’d better get divorce paperwork too”.

    I feel that wherever we are in life, no matter what we believe to be our success or a lack there of, when we begin to get complacent or too comfortable with our lives we get bored. The brown starts to become more obvious. For better or worse we begin to look at ways to bring excitement back into our lives. We do our best to challenge ourselves with new things we know little about. Sometimes we come out on top and other times we fail. None the less, our only option is to keep going.

    Years ago my wife and I had ZERO desire to have a child. We were happy with our lives and where it was. Not where it was going but where it was. It wasn’t until we realized how bored we were that we decided to take the leap and have a child. Anyone who knows our story knows how difficult it was. How often we questioned our decision because of all the pain we went through. We kept going, kept pushing, kept watering the grass.

    Here we are, we’ve got a beautiful daughter that keeps us on our toes. We have no idea where we are going. Boredom is no longer in our vocabulary. We keep going and we love every moment. And yet, once in a while we look over the fence and see the green. Not in envy but in admiration. We understand how much work it took to get there.

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    • (((HUGS))) to you and the Fam Chris!!!


    • Well thought out message my friend. I love the grass analogy and it has some humorous irony for both of us in that story. :)……..no matter what choices we make in our lives or what happens there will always be a positive side to it and thats what we need to focus on…..my life also is anything but boring nor do I ever give myself the chance to get bored…..I am lucky and grarlteful, if I sit idle for long enough more big ideas start to pop in my head. I am always going after something and each something carries a meaning that I don’t know yet but I am always eager to find out. Thanks for the great message Chris.


  2. Love Ya Marc!!!


  3. Life is good I am so impressed with you from reading your blog, keep that positive mind set and everything will fall in place. I do believe that where we are is where we are meant to be, God is the driver of our life.

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