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Lonely Focus

I have given up many things to be where I am today in the light of my future goals. I will not be the first to tell you that change is not easy but I can tell you that determination will get you where you are meant to be.

Everything happens for a reason, everyone we meet and everything that happens to us has a great reason that is up to us to discover. I can do anything I put my mind to and if it is too easy I don’t just settle. If it feels natural, then down the line it is certain to be littered with challenges. Seeking out and agreeing to shut off my whole land life to work on a cruise ship was not easy. I was a nervous wreck. I stepped foot on that cruise ship for the first time as a worker and I knew I belonged there. Working on the cruise ship is where I vented out every negative thought I had: It was several emails that would scare the crap out of you, addressed to some of the most amazing people on this planet! This is also where I fell in love with the ocean!

I returned home and for me it was not a happy homecoming. I pulled the plug here, things with me were dying inside, friendships were disappearing, and sadly I was losing connection with my family. I was always the weird one in my family and just when they got me all figured out it was like an explosion of change. I felt like they did not understand what was going on, and sometimes neither did I. Do not misunderstand, I love my family and I know they care about me but I don’t think they understand the magnitude of this change that has sparked a fire in me. Riddled with a life of negatives I wanted out. I am constantly working on a full life of positivism and in order to do that I had to leave. I was grated that window to leave and I moved to Florida! The Ocean was calling my name.

I went from leaving everything temporarily to leaving it for good. Yes for good. I left my family, my friends, my Scout group, my bike rides, my soccer team, my pizza, and about 75% of everything I owned. You know what change looks like? A packed Chevy Cobalt with a bike on the back and a kayak on top, driving 1200 miles straight through with a known history of falling asleep behind the wheel. I pulled away from my sister’s house, set my GPS, then my music and just cried.

So starts my lonely journey south…. where I am meant to be. I started back socially where I was many years ago; with one friend. It has been easy to make work friends but I am a single guy in a world of couples and married woman. I am certain after 3 years here I am meant to be single and part introvert actually. Sure I get lonely sitting at home on Saturday night getting fat on mediocre pizza and writing blogs, but I am meant for greater things and I have to keep reminding myself that. I need to stay focused on my goals.

Goals are what brought me down here, goals run my life. My social life has taken a huge hit but it is an underlining reality that I need the time to make myself bigger each day. It’s an open door to better consider what is best for my future as a motivational speaker. By any means is this lonely lifestyle boring? Anything but that really. The physical journeys have been plentiful with all my travels the last few years but I believe the time has come to focus my mind on my future career. I will never stop inspiring those willing to listen, and I will always be learning from any of your feedback as well. Life is amazing and more amazing as you find your passion and make your dreams come true.

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Bullying, To Be Or Not To Be

When I was in 5th grade I can remember being out at recess and fighting with my friend to not have to stand behind this girl in the line to go back inside. We did not want to stand by her just because we thought she was ugly. What senselessness we thought it was now that we are grown up, but at that age I did not know what empathy was. We could have very well destroyed that girl’s life. She still comes up in conversation in the recent years and we always say that she is probably a super model and we were just naive kids afraid of cooties.

That’s not when I learned my lesson though. In Junior High I was hit hard with what some call Karma. I was hanging out at recess once again but this time it was with the group of bullies that picked on the same kids every day. One day it got physical, I pushed a boy to the ground and actually hurt him. It was that moment that I immediately hated myself and helped him right back up. I did not courage up an apology right away but I sorrowed tons of regret before I turned things around and became friends with this same person. After this terrible act of bullying the stars were not aligned for me. It was like being lost on a cloudy moonless night with no way to guide me home. This was the year of my first heavy crush and also the year of my fall into a bad depression. I lost every friend I had, except for one, including my crush. High School was terrible. Most people want to go back….not me. I learned of a learning disability I had with very low reading levels. I used up most of my lunch hours in a reading class, and the lunches I did attend I was forced to sit with kids of a lower grade because I was now the dork.

You are probably wondering where the karma comes in? In High School I was the one being bullied. I was made fun of all the time, I was pushed around, I was excluded from things and picked last for activities. Oh Marc you need braces, as if it could get any worse. This did however start to turn around for me. I grow up with a strong family and a small hand full of great friends that I had at this point. I started to stand up for myself against bullies and I was winning. I started to show respect for those that are typically excluded and ignored.

In college I began to come alive! I learned how to manage my depression without medication and my shyness lifted. I started dating and gaining friends galore. I became friends with anyone and everyone. I was proud that all my friends were friends with each other too. Everyone I brought into my circle they became friends with everyone else. The cool thing that holds true still today is my friends are friends with my siblings and we are all friends with their friends as well. There were no exclusions, we hung out and we partied with whoever wanted to join.

You see I have turned myself around quite a bit, but I am not done. Bullying has gotten worse as the years go by and the internet has gotten more and more accessible to our younger generation to give ease to those with bad intentions. I have a soft spot for those that are picked on for any reason. Working in an elementary school has really shined light on my purpose of inspiring children to be more positive with their lives. I work with special needs children and I have the opportunity to talk to the other students telling them that we are all different and that’s okay but so much of us is exactly the same. I have had the opportunity to make some of these students realize what they are doing or saying to others is wrong. The great part is…it’s working! I can see it working. Has life shown me both sides of bullying to better help and empathize for those involved? Is my life culminating to a point where I can educate students to a more positive life for themselves and their peers? This same positive lifestyle education holds true to all those who will listen of any age. I want to stand up between the two side where bullying starts and tell our younger generation that there are grand reasons to stop bullying and there is a personality inside all of us with the strength to stand up, ignore, change and fight bullying.

Many people have asked what my purpose is. Well if you have read this far now you know. When you see me with a positive attitude that’s real emotions. When you see me not smiling I am stepping through the next struggle in my life and climbing closer to my goals and purpose for smiling again. I will never bully again and I will always help others at all times. You can change your own life with a simple smile you can change everyone else with a simple smiling hello as you pass through each others lives for any length of time.

Bullying has to stop and a more positive mind set has to begin.

(Here is a new video clip that inspired this post, right from my home town of St. Charles)

Joy In Challenges

In order to live a full life you need to challenge yourself. Challenges in life are not always easy but if you find the joy in these challenges you will see a lot better outcome on the things you go after in your life.

I’m no fool this April

March has come to a close and what a month of Gratitude it was. I am so grateful for the results I had on my Facebook, my Blog, and also with myself. I really like the idea of the month long thing and I decided to do another one this month for all of April!

April will be all about positivism in Health. All month I will be talking about and sharing many Ideas on the subject of health for a more UP (ultra positive) life style. I have set up a few goals for myself that I will list below. Perhaps if you would like you can set up your own health goals to carry out all month long. There is no right or wrong goals. This is about your health and your body. Nobody know your body better then you do!

MY GOALS
– No sweet, desserts, sugary drinks or sugary snacks all month
– One day a week if I want junk food
– No drinking alcohol (not that I do very much anyways :P)
– 50 miles a week biking, walking, or kayaking
– Set meals every day, eating less
– No eating out at restaurants all month

I start this month at a high 274 lbs. Lets see how much I can lose in one month.

With Easter looming, I quickly bought up some candy and ate it all last night, But that is it until May! Why April, you may be wondering? The only answer I have for you is why not?

I hope that this month challenge will set me up to get back to eating healthier and eating less again. I hope that you may be able to come up with some health challenges for you. I look forward to the new month, the new challenges, and the new people I may cross paths with.

Please share your GOALS, CHALLENGES, and STORIES right here or on my Facebook page, and be sure to share my posts with your friends.
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Variety Friday (31 days of Gratitude)

I have decided to make March my month to share gratitude for the things I am grateful for in life.

Everyday in the month of March I will be posting 1 thing I am grateful for on my Facebook page (https://www.facebook.com/UPwithmarc). I not only encouraging you to check it out each day but to also like my page and share what you are grateful for as well. I would be most grateful for you to share my blog and my Facebook page with your friends as well! I would like to fill my Facebook page with gratitude by others as well as myself.

Have a great weekend everyone!

LIFE

Why am I here? I reach that point of pure inspiration and I have no idea how to explain it. My life struggles are merely a matter of opinion. Plenty of others have it far better or worse than I do. I continue to rise every morning in search of the unknown. Some days I have full confidence in where I want to be in my life, other days I wonder if I am insane. I get asked again and again the purpose of my blog, the purpose of my desire to be a motivational figure, and the purpose of my new life. All people, positively curious, want a fine tuned answer of where I am going. I don’t have an answer. We set goals and work towards them all the time, but sometimes there are bigger things in life then even your goals. Sometimes you wake up in the morning and you just let life happen.

Sure I want to be a motivational speaker but have I narrowed down what I want to motivate people about? NO. Right now if I did that I would be narrowing my view, narrowing my life. This is a concept I finally understand. I remain open to catch everything. I talked a few times about heartbreak, but truthfully it is that heartbreak that has lead me to who I am today. Any negative opinions of my challenges, successes, and my journey just don’t matter anymore. If you can believe it I am transforming myself little by little into the most positive person I have ever known.

Sure, I make mistakes, big mistakes. You would to when you try to introduce your positivism in a negative world. The biggest thing I have thought about my whole life is how different I am from everyone, from my style all the way down to my thought process. I am nothing close to perfect but I am original.

Everything I do now in life carries great purpose. When I struggle to meet goals or even find love in my life I realize that there is a higher purpose that I have only begun to discover. I am grateful I have found this journey. I am grateful you have read this and I am grateful you are part of my journey. This journey is far from the beginning and far from over.

After a little over 2 weeks it is good to be back. For the month of March I will be doing 31 days of Gratitude. I will be posting one thing I am grateful for everyday on my Facebook Page. Be sure and check it out each day and I encourage you to write what you are grateful for in the comments below each day.

From The Inside Out!

Do you love yourself?

Loving yourself is where everything good starts in your life. No lasting good can grow in your life without first honoring what it means to be you. No success has flourished in the hands of those who simply copy others. We are all original. We all have something to offer this world. We all have love to offer to ourselves. Believe in yourself, love yourself and you shall see a brighter path on the journey that is your life.

Be confident with yourself and your goals. Your journey will be full of failure but if you get up each time you will see your success soon enough. Doubt yourself and your path shall be filled with regret.

You cannot fully love another person without loving who you are first. If you don’t believe you are amazing, that is the image you portray to others. If you are confident and love who you are the right person or people are out there to show you that same love in return.

Who are you? Let the world know. Be it to the masses or one person at a time tell the world you are great and knock down those that stand opposed to your own positive self-image. We all have the greatness in us and it is up to ourselves to retrieve it from our own hearts before we can share it with others. Love yourself on the inside first and then learn to love everything else on the outside of your life.

You need to live your life from the inside out! Only then can all your dreams come true. I ask again…..Do you love yourself?

Variety Friday! (NEW BLOG CHANGES)

All new Variety Friday!

I wrote about this once before but this has to be my most favorite quote so far on my journey of change: “Anything worth doing was worth doing poorly-until I can learn to do it well.” – Zig Ziglar.

Past Post

I try so hard to keep my post short and sweet but sometimes I still amaze myself how much I could say and still have to say about Ultra Positivism. This blog is a living organism of my life and I share bits and pieces of it indirectly all the time in my posts about positivism. There is no GPS on my life, but you better be certain I will continue to leave a trail for those to follow and teach me new things. I started this blog out of heart break and just look at where I have come from that moment. I was not a writer, there was a day I was anything but positive, there was a day were life was not worth living. UP to today I built a never give up attitude, and I am surrounding it with Ultra Positivism from around the globe. I have all of you to be grateful for that. I may have uninspiring posts sometimes, my grammar may flounder in my rushed attempts to post, I may miss a week of posting here and there, I may fall to my knees in tears, but IT IS ALL WORTH IT. I may not know where I am going or where I may end up but I know for a fact it all adds to my tale of life and slowly I will pick up inspired and inspiring people along the way. I don’t know when I will become a motivational speaker or what I will even say but if just one day I can stand in front of hundreds or more, deliver life’s message and change the lives of each one I will have learned to do it well.

I enjoy Famous Quote Friday but it is time for change. There is more out there, more then I have time to share. I don’t want to leave Fridays for just quotes. I will start to include video clips, music, pictures, other blogs, or Facebook pages that inspire me. I start today with a song.

This song I have had for years and only in the last couple days did I search for the meaning of the title. I have also lost count of how many times I have listened to this song and how many times it continues to inspire me.

“Shibumi” by Amethystium
Listen to it. Give your full attention to it and nothing else. While you listen think about your life. This song is to amazing for words to describe but I did find an Urban Dictionary definition to the word “Shibumi”

A term from the Edo period in Japan refering to places, persons, or things of effortless perfection. Anything that is Shibumi is noble and fulfilling in a manner that is not shaped exclusively by analytical thought. Simply put, a state of great refinement underlying commonplace appearances.
http://www.urbandictionary.com/

If I had to pick an important post this one is it. This is the one I want EVERYONE to share. For the sake of you, others and myself, help me find great things in life by helping me spread my message of Positivism everywhere. I cannot pay you I cannot force you but each and every one of you I owe a debt of gratitude for helping me share this blog and this journey with the world. I want to make a name for myself and with every post and every share I can come closer to my dream.

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Read and Watch

Everyone reading this knows full well the impact that reading has on our lives. It changes your level of knowledge, your level of creativity and changes your life. What you choose to read is a big reflection on your life. If you choose to read The Onion or The National Inquirer where do you think your life is going? It is going into a world of negativity where you really don’t have big plans to amount to anything in your life. Now, if you read something like Discover or Success magazine, you seek inspiration and fuel to achieve in your own creative goals. Read to be inspired, there are many paths reading can take you: You can read to promote your spiritual path, you can read to increase your knowledge on select subjects or you can read things just to get the gears in your brain to turn. I know this is cliche but there are tons of blogs out there worth reading and following. You just have to look for them. The list of things you can read and the paths you can take with it are endless but ultimately what you read will affect your life even in ways you don’t realize.

What you watch can have the same effects as reading. Those reality show, what are you really getting out of them? You are not getting anything worth taking to your future. Aside from a few documentaries and positively inspiring programs I cannot really think of a whole lot of good things to watch on TV. The internet is a plethora of videos. How many epic fail video compilations do you need to watch to look past the temporary laughter and realize you yourself are failing epically at a life that has so much potential? To find the positive and inspiring videos all you have to do is look. Ted Talks is a great place to start. In fact next Wednesday I will be sharing a video I recently watched on Ted Talks. (TED LINK)

I have taken it upon myself to be more structured in my efforts to read more and watch more inspiring videos. I have been more actively reading my followers blogs and other people’s blogs. I read sections of “Notes from the Universe” by Mike Dooley, on a daily basis. I seek out positive memes and a few other things to read each day. As far as videos I don’t do too much with that but I watch one Ted Talks video every day. You should definitely check that site out.

I do ask graciously if you could please share readings, reading materials or videos that inspire you. Please leave them in a comment below I would absolutely like to see what inspires my followers and anyone really! PLEASE SHARE THIS BLOG WITH OTHERS. The more positive and inspiring things we share with one another the bigger our doors of life open up. Have a great day I look forward to seeing what you have to share!

My Cycle

Here is a spiritual discovery I seem to have found within myself a few months ago. As a whole it’s a very inspiring message but if you only read part of it, it may not make sense!

 

I have fallen upon the rule of the underworld. I have died and now I walk through the depths of hell but I have a small view of the fields of heaven in my thoughts. I walk the corridors of the hidden and lost. I shall find and follow what motivates me in this new life. I have been lying to myself for some time, certain things will never happen upon a double edged sword. When I discover my new direction is when my new journey begins. These chains I will break and challenges I will face shall be my motivation to move forward.

I stand embodied by the day and the rebirth of new life. Current life changes have brought me back to a mind of basic values that have never changed. Old meanings I hold close in the present have lost value. I stand alone in displacement where my regular world no longer makes any sense to me. I seek eyes of new meaning in my life. I transform from the darkness to explore and become reborn.

This is the time to follow my heart. If I fail in this path my deepest self needs will be ignored. It is time to connect with animal and nature. What am I passionate about? Where do I belong? I need to let go to be wild and free in this world and find my place. I will not abandon all that I know and love but I need to step away from the places I frequent and the people I love and explore nature. There is a great connection out there somewhere and I have to find it.

To follow my journey there are many things I must give up, many things I must sacrifice in hopes it guides me to a greater good. I will sacrifice many things in the light of change. The road will be long and uncomfortable but only the challenging roads can get me anywhere worth going. I will fight with my comfort levels but in time I will level out stronger than before. It starts by being a hero to myself and living.

It is very unclear what freedoms will be gained from my journey. Angels will be the guiding light to those freedoms. I must unmask my deepest fears and let them transform into something more beautiful. I have to face my fears but I also need to decide now. I must understand my fears to step upon them with glory.

As the cycle completes and the journey comes to its goal I will ignite all I have learned with the new light of my soul. Maybe I am at home now, I may find a new home in my journey or I may go back home to those I know. Home is where you are comfortable, home is important. I think my journey may be to find where I can call home and sometimes we must travel great distances with both our feet and our minds to discover where we belong. Even if we feel like we don’t belong we need the journey to discover where we do, even if that journey takes us back to where we started because we reenter familiar surroundings with a new heavenly life view.

It is my life at hand, It is your future, It is our destiny, we can never stop until mother nature tells us we have learned enough in our life. Let your tears of sorrow fall back to the salty seas, and capture the tears of joy for they will form diamonds in your future. -UPwithmarc