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The 3 most important things in life

The 3 most important things in life are communication, empathy and gratitude.

Communication

In all successful parts of life you need good communication. From your boss to your spouse, you need to have a good send and receive between every important person in your life. With all the new technology we have this day in age; so many things can be misunderstood in too many ways. Also if you cannot be honest in saying something to someone what is the point of having them in your life? It is so easy to keep the lines of communication open with anyone all you have to do is talk and listen. The most obvious and best communication is face to face. This way you leave very little to be misunderstood.

The biggest and most important communication is with yourself. Listen to your body and listen to your heart. When your sick don’t ignore it and when you are happy let yourself feed off of that happiness. It is always wise to listen to your heart it will always tell you far greater things then your brain. When you are listening to yourself you can certainly be successful with anything you want out of life.

Empathy

Something I seem to have naturally done most of my life is being empathetic. Showing empathy is so important. How can you be fair in any situation without putting yourself in other people’s shoes? Empathy is the heart of solving almost any problem. It really makes you realize how little of a problem some things are. With empathy you are easily able to express sympathy and more compassion toward others as well. Not only can you avoid physical arguments with empathy you can also help others through tough situations in their lives.

Gratitude

Only a few years ago I really fully understood gratitude and its importance. I did a 30 day gratitude challenge (something more valuable then that Facebook one going around) and it really changed my perspective of how I think. You can get so much more out of life with a little gratitude. We should be grateful for every opportunity we have in our lives. The things you work really hard for are super easy to be grateful about, but it is the simple things you need to be grateful for in your life as well. Everything you send out comes back. If you are grateful for something you are just tossing positive in the air, positivism that will certainly come back to you in some shape or form.

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Does anyone see the connections here? If you have no gratitude for things and people in your life, chances are you carry no empathy for those things also. None of this can be revealed without communication. Don’t get sucked into any miscommunication all it becomes is a whirlpool of problems, if you cannot put yourself in the same view as others I guarantee you will not be a very likable person, and if you have no gratitude for the small things and people in your life you are just robbing yourself of much needed positive energy.

Dying Kindness? (A must read)

Not a very positive title I know but it was hard to title this one. I know right off the bat that negativity sells. Negativity gets way more attention in our society than anything positive. That human instinct that draws us to be more interested in negativity is probably drawing more of you to this post than normal, just by the title. No big deal it is natural. But those that came here to read a negative story might be disappointed. I will touch on a few negative things, but it is more so making you aware of things so you can choose to be positive.

I have sworn off TV/radio news, and most of TV sitcoms and reality shows, it is just way to negative and depressing for me. I am certainly not telling you to, but I can tell you why I have. I know you can argue that there are good shows and good news stories. It would not be an argument you would be right. However, the amount of people dying, the crime, and immature and pointless stories you have to go through to get to anything positive or inspirational is just gross. Yes, these things I want to avoid are part of everyday life, but you can turn the table around and realize how many good things that are out there also and part of your everyday life as well. I don’t have facts and numbers to throw at you but it is a fact that there are WAY MORE good people and positive things happening in our world then bad. It is all about what we choose to pay attention too.

One compliment for Facebook, I am following any good page I can find. I jump on my Facebook and it is one positive story after another all the time. I fully enjoy any positive posts I see from my friends as well. I just wish those that choose to complain and grab negative attention would try posting more positive things once in a while. Sure you’re not going to get dozens of likes and comments for sympathy or debate but to me it is not worth it. Whenever I post I always hope for the like approval or even a nice comment but sometimes I don’t get anything. Even if it is just at a glance I know you are reading my comments and my blog, even if you don’t acknowledge it. I am grateful for your following. I have grown to be grateful for the opportunity to share positive things with people all over the world. There are many that don’t even have the freedom to try to spread positivism.

The reason I like to remain positive, nonreligious and nonpolitical in my blog is simply for the positive challenge. I know if I start talking about the negative things in my life, sadly this blog will be more interesting to more people. If I start sharing my religious views my followings would be out the roof, there is a lot of positivism to be shared in the name of religion. If I shared my political views I am sure I can easily gather a large following to continually debate. NO I just want plain positivism to ourselves and to others. We can always use more positivism but really we need more people in this world to follow a life of positivism. I know we are all not positive robots. Things in our life will totally suck sometimes but we are going to get past them. The sun will rise again on a new day. There are endless opportunities out there for all of us. There are endless ways we can be positive and share positivism.

To my point of dying kindness is what it seems is happening all around us, or perhaps just me. One of the reasons I want to travel is I have a strong need to experience other people and other cultures. Just with my visit to Texas last weekend I realize how much nicer people are their then here in Chicago, in general of course. I got an “excuse me sir” just coming out of a public bathroom as I almost walked into him. I was uncomfortable at first because I was not used to that but I realize later how polite that was and pretty much just wanted to find the guy and thank him for his kindness. The idea of dying kindness seems to be all around me. Returning people’s calls or messages all the time does not seem to matter to people anymore. Compliments without acknowledgement. Being nice to people is labeled as being too nice now. SERIOUSLY why do we live in a society were being too nice is a problem? To many kind words freak people out these days. I’m nervous shelling out compliments to new girls, they either seem to be weirded out, or think I want to get in their pants. When I give a guy a compliment it is even more uncomfortable. Communication is dying, everyone seems to just assume now. No one seems to take inititive to make the first move for what they are interested in, they wait for others. Even when you say or do something nice it goes unacknowledged. The nervousness to giving compliments I would like to lose. I used to compliment people all time but it made them uncomfortable. I will just let people take it however they wish now. If it comes off as weird or unwanted flirting too bad! I never ever have bad intentions toward anyone. A word we need to use more often is love. If you love someone or something SAY IT! I don’t care if it is the chocolate covered gummy bears at or your favorite candy shop or a first date or your family pet. Profess that love. In a world were kindness seems to be dying, love is a strength that will keep it alive. Don’t let communication die, don’t let kindness die, don’t let love for one another die. Think Positive share positive and worry not of your consequences.

I LOVE ALL OF YOU! Be kind and share my blog with your friends. You have already complimented me by reading, why not take it one step farther and click and share this kindness with those that you love.

Dr. Eric Perry, PhD

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