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What Everyone Else Wants!
I am a few days away from my life’s next big adventure! I am going back to work on a cruise ship again (for 2 months) but this time I will be in Alaska. A place where I have always wanted to go and I get to from an opportunity that was basically put on my lap! As I said in a previous blog I will be limited with time to write and internet to post but I assure you I will be back and I am most likely going to be shifting some of the main focuses of this blog.
It is funny how our thought process works. I am learning through the challenges of life that everything happens for a reason. The most exciting discovery is when those reasons come to light in our minds. At the time my fiancé broke it off with me 3-4 years ago I was ready to settle down and start a family but my life has changed completely, for the better I would like to add! In grained in me is a subtle shy loneliness that I successfully chip away at everyday and my new life, new adventures and new goals unfold. I could time line my whole life, the feelings are so strong but perhaps I will save that for my first book. Yes my first book…one of many goals. My biggest goal of all is to become a motivational speaker.
Fast forward to now I work at a wonderful elementary school as a teacher assistant to students with autism. What an eye opening job. I have had hard jobs before but this one moves its way toward the top of that list, however the rewards from this job sky rocket. Here I am; single, secretly fighting little loneliness spell now and again, I work around a bunch of beautiful married women (inside and out) and I work around wonderful children that just make me want my own ever day. Even though this job has been and will continue to be an amazing opportunity I ask myself through the personal torture why am I setting myself up like this: Working all around others that have everything I want.
Now wait a second, here is the crazy part. As I talk to my new friends, staff and teachers, about my adventures of travel and my life goals, they are envious of me. I realize I want what they have and they want what I have. It is crazy how life works like that. But then I take a step back and realize why life had brought me here. To meet great people of course, and try new things in my life, but the main reason I am here is to finally realize my motivational speaking career starts with these children. I want to inspire children to be all they can be and live a more positively directed life. I want to teach them that there is no benefit to bullying their fellow classmates. Make friends in school not enemies. If you know me at all you know that when I set sight on something, no matter how long it takes, I WILL MAKE IT HAPPEN. Maybe this school year maybe next but I was meant for this. It took me 34 years to figure this out but I have 70 more to make a difference in the lives of all our futures.
I realize that if I was married and had kids 3-4 years ago, there was no chance I would be working on a cruise ship, there was no chance I would have moved down to Florida, very little chance that I would have stepped out of my career as a Design Director to find my passion as a motivational speaker. All I had to do was drop the negative thoughts and listen to what life was telling me. There is great things out there and wonderful people to meet. I will meet the right one for me when I least expect it. I will be successful with my goals and like any roller coaster success story I expect to fall, I expect it to be hard, and I expect to learn a lot.
I walk through the halls of my school and every smile or hi I get, every high five or hug I receive lets me know how many young lives I am impacting already. I know my main focus is with the special need students in my class but I make it a point to connect with new students’ every day. I certainly connect with the teachers as well. The students allow me to be more connected with my goals all the time and the teachers are the ones that are opening doors for me to explore. So yes I was meant to be here at this elementary school. Some teachers are excited for their well deserved summer break and here I am off to Alaska for almost two months and I miss these kids already! I know I am where I am meant to be and I know there is still more exploring to do on my way to where I want to be. The purpose for my Alaska trip is simple, I deserve a break too! It just so happens to be a working break but you can’t beat the location or opportunity.
I am so grateful for all of my family, friends, teachers, and students that have helped me get where I am now. You may not know you have helped but know now! I am grateful for all of my blog followers and new friends from the internet that are alongside supporting my journey through life. There are big things coming in my life and I am going after all of it!
Be a Paragon!
A week ago I started a book about how everything happens for a reason. A couple days ago I talked to a good friend about self love. Yesterday I receive one of the best compliments EVER! My new friend called me a paragon. The Irony is I was already going to write about these things anyways!
In “Everything Happens For A Reason” by Mira Kirshenbaum I learned that once you realize the reason things happen, you have to live within those reasons and write a new story for yourself. You need to stop living in the stories of who you once were. You need to love your life, you need to love the changes and the challenges in your life. Most importantly you need to love yourself, heart and soul. Conquer your fears and stand tall, always.
The title of my new life story is “Be a Paragon”. I want to strive for perfection in the eyes of those I inspire and I want to set examples for those who follow me in the future to come. I want to eat and breathe positivism. I want to be the example of positivism. I will tackle as many challenges as are needed to get where I want to be. As long as I am alive I will be striving for whatever great goal is next in my life.
What is your story? Do you like that story? Maybe it is time to change that story. In order to change the story you are still living now you have to close the book and open up a brand new one. Sometimes a complete start over of your life may be in order. The last question is, how badly do you really want those positive changes in your life and are you willing to do what it takes to reach these goals in your new life story?
I am a paragon, I am the next big thing, I am amazing. I am not conceded but I will tell myself these things till the end of my days! I am worth it to me and you should be worth it to you. Be a Paragon.
Meme Monday (Something Wonderful)
When you meet someone just assume right off the bat that they are going to be amazing. Give the person their own chance to show you if they are wonderful or not. First judgement is not always the right judgement, but you should not judge! Nobody is perfect and you should accept them for who they are.
This reading month is going well. I have really gotten myself in the habit of wanting to read everyday. It helps when you are reading something you enjoy. If you don’t enjoy what you are reading put it down and find something else. No one is telling you that you have to finish. The book I am reading now is awesome. It is called “Everything Happens For A Reason,” by Mira Kirshenbaum. I will tell you a little more about the book on Wednesday!
From The Point Of View Of A Gazelle
“From the point of view of a gazelle, the reason why lions are fast is to make us gazelles faster. And the faster I get, the closer I get to my true gazelleness.”
Mira Kirshenbaum, from her book “Everything happens for a reason”
I laughed when she used the made up word “gazelleness.” It is always nice to have a little humor to get your point across! We all have evolved from the environment we live in. Just as the gazelle out runs the lions, human learn to out run life’s challenges. I am not talking about running away from the challenges; I am taking about conquering them and moving past them. In order to understand who you are you need to find and except the reasons why behind all events in your life.
My May reading month has been going well I hope you have set some reading goals too. I hope you all have a great weekend.
Focus On Your Life
I have finished my first book this month called “Black Hole Focus”, by Isaiah Hankel PhD. So many great life changing ideas in this book and it is not ironic that the one thing I want to share with you involves the Ideas of focus.
Isaiah talks about the ideas of a black hole. It is not so much that things fall into a black hole and disappear but more so things fall into a black hole and change. In our lives we fall into holes and we do not disappear do we? The Idea behind change is to emerge from the holes in life changed for the better.
That was at the very beginning of the book and now I want to skip right to the end.
“Do it all. Have a whatever-it-takes mentality”, says Isaiah. He is right, go after everything you can in life. Learn as much as possible, not as fast as possible but as efficient as possible. There are those of us who have a focus on life that is too small, with that you are not giving your life much expectation to be amazing. On the other hand it is actually harmful to have to big of a focus as you give your life less time to really get to know the true potential. To add more value to your life you need to narrow your focus and you really will start to discover your purpose. That is what “Black Hole Focus” is all about, finding a more meaningful purpose to your life and all the whys to follow.
Your goals are important in life but you do not want too many at one time. What are your main goals, your biggest goals? Now focus on those and what it is going to take to achieve the big goals by using smaller goals to step your way to the top.
The new book I started reading is called “Everything Happens For A reason”, by Mira Kirshenbaum. It is a collection of stories that are explaining the meaning behind all the things, good and bad, that happen in your life.
Bottom line for today’s post is, go after everything you want in life. No matter if you succeed or fail, all your goals have a specific reason in your life. That’s enough motivation to push on and go after great things in your life. You have nothing to lose but the thought of not trying.
Gratitude to JOY!
I started to exercise again and when I was walking I came across this
I certainly take this as a sign, well because it clearly is an actual sign that says “JOY” but it means so much more than that! I am discovering many joys in my life and as I start the next chapter of exercise it is certainly very inspiring to find this sign in the ditch. In my journey to find joy, well joy is finding me, and I owe it to gratitude! How cool is that? I am grateful for everything in my life and maybe this sign means something different. Tis the season to find joy and honor the world we live in. Perhaps this is simply a sign to brighten my holiday spirit!
I have been following signs for most of my life. Is it ironic that I worked in the sign design industry for many years only to step out and follow different signs in my life? In one way or another we are all following signs in our life.
I have always been saying everything happens for a reason. I am a full believer of seeing hidden signs in our life and letting them flourish with full potential. No matter how big or small, we are meant to find the signs we see, just as you were meant to read this.
We can be inspired by many things in our life and all we have to do is open our eyes and be ready to receive these wondrous joys. What joys have you found? Are you looking? What are you looking for? Sometimes you need to shut your eyes and let your heart find these things, they are everywhere and these joys will pop up anywhere in your life. Show gratitude for what you do have in life now and the joyous signs you see in your life will be your rewards of more things to be grateful for in your future, more signs of joy.
Joy to the world and let us be grateful for all that we have now so that we may find more joy to share with others in our future! Have a great day everyone!
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