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I have given up many things to be where I am today in the light of my future goals. I will not be the first to tell you that change is not easy but I can tell you that determination will get you where you are meant to be.

Everything happens for a reason, everyone we meet and everything that happens to us has a great reason that is up to us to discover. I can do anything I put my mind to and if it is too easy I don’t just settle. If it feels natural, then down the line it is certain to be littered with challenges. Seeking out and agreeing to shut off my whole land life to work on a cruise ship was not easy. I was a nervous wreck. I stepped foot on that cruise ship for the first time as a worker and I knew I belonged there. Working on the cruise ship is where I vented out every negative thought I had: It was several emails that would scare the crap out of you, addressed to some of the most amazing people on this planet! This is also where I fell in love with the ocean!

I returned home and for me it was not a happy homecoming. I pulled the plug here, things with me were dying inside, friendships were disappearing, and sadly I was losing connection with my family. I was always the weird one in my family and just when they got me all figured out it was like an explosion of change. I felt like they did not understand what was going on, and sometimes neither did I. Do not misunderstand, I love my family and I know they care about me but I don’t think they understand the magnitude of this change that has sparked a fire in me. Riddled with a life of negatives I wanted out. I am constantly working on a full life of positivism and in order to do that I had to leave. I was granted that window to leave and I moved to Florida! The Ocean was calling my name.

I went from leaving everything temporarily to leaving it for good. Yes for good. I left my family, my friends, my Scout group, my bike rides, my soccer team, my pizza, and about 75% of everything I owned. You know what change looks like? A packed Chevy Cobalt with a bike on the back and a kayak on top, driving 1200 miles straight through with a known history of falling asleep behind the wheel. I pulled away from my sister’s house, set my GPS, then my music and just cried.

So starts my lonely journey south…. where I am meant to be. I started back socially where I was many years ago; with one friend. It has been easy to make work friends but I am a single guy in a world of couples and married woman. I am certain after 3 years here I am meant to be single and part introvert actually. Sure I get lonely sitting at home on Saturday night getting fat on mediocre pizza and writing blogs, but I am meant for greater things and I have to keep reminding myself that. I need to stay focused on my goals.

Goals are what brought me down here, goals run my life. My social life has taken a huge hit but it is an underlining reality that I need the time to make myself bigger each day. It’s an open door to better consider what is best for my future as a motivational speaker. By any means is this lonely lifestyle boring? Anything but that really. The physical journeys have been plentiful with all my travels the last few years but I believe the time has come to focus my mind on my future career. I will never stop inspiring those willing to listen, and I will always be learning from any of your feedback as well. Life is amazing and more amazing as you find your passion and make your dreams come true.

TED Talks Live, New York (The Education Revolution)

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I came home from New York City (NYC) and people were amazed what I fit in just 3 days. They thought I was there a week or more. I did it all while I was in NYC. The Tower observation decks, museums, boat tours and much more. The main reason I was there was to experience my first Live TED Talk event.

This was a double bucket list trip. First time seeing TED Talks and NYC. The whole trip was amazing but I would like to tell you my thoughts on some of the best motivational speakers of the evening. In the heart of NYC, Broadway and Time Square, I went to the historic Town Hall Theater. This event was going on all week with a different main topic each day. The main topic for the day I went was “The Education Revolution”. Other topics were things like science, history, war and peace.

I would like to say that this is a very informal post, more like expanded notes.

Andrew Mangino, CEO and Co-Founder of The Future Project:

He told us about how we need not just teachers in our world but Dream Directors. Yes every teacher can be a Dream Director, every one of us can inspire the future of our children. With the increasing amount of rules and regulations in the education industry we are leaving children’s creativity by the way sides, and we are ignoring their abilities to dream big in their life. Life is not all about just pushing kids to go to college it is about living their own lives. Listen to their ideas and let them follow their dreams. Not all will succeed right away but if we teach them how success and failure work together, all of their dreams have the ability to grow. We need to update the Education System and teach kids the jobs of today. Things have become useless were other things are not even brought up.

 

Julie Lythcott-Haims, Academic & Bestselling Author of “How to Raise an Adult”

Julie said at the end of her speech, “My kids are not bonsai trees they are wild flowers of an unknown species.” We are giving our children a checklist childhood we are expecting our kids to perform at a perfect level that we never even held ourselves too. These kids need to learn right and wrong by experience. Our kids need to experience failure and how to rise above it. Julie says, “By the end of high school these kids are questioning the worth of their life and their future.” We need to stop babying our kids. They need to be able to grow their own self-efficiency. Kids have too much entitlement; they need to earn more of what is just given to them. Kids need to experience life for themselves!

Julie told us, “A study was conducted and all the top professionals did chores as a kid.” I did chores and I made it to Design Director and now I am headed toward Dream Director as a motivational speaker. Academically kids need to know they matter to us, that they are not just another test grade statistic. All success did not come from going to big name schools, and world renowned colleges. Some success did not come from college at all. I choose to only get my 2 associates degrees. With that and a well brought up life of challenges and discovering who I am, I am succeeding everywhere in my life. I don’t owe everything I have accomplished in my life to some big name school. I owe it to my parents, Scouts, Failure, and outright earning everything I have in life from hard work.

 

Daniella Carter, Founder of Gender Global

As a youth Daniella was homeless, she was homeless because she was rejected by her own parents for being transgender. The LGBTQIA individuals have enough problems in the school and social setting as it is. For Daniella to rise about her homelessness and the critiques of the world around her is a huge challenge. Today she teaches children to overcome their adversities and embrace who they are with confidence. She was emotional giving her life story speech but I think she left no eye dry in the theater either. Bullying is such a problem in our world today. Where are kids learning that it is alright to tease and make fun of people who are different? The crazy thing is every single one of us is different! Even as an adult we make fun of and talk down things and people just because we don’t understand them. At the end she says “Join the revolution of loving someone different.” That is vague and precise all in one statement.

 

Sean McComb, National Teacher of the Year in 2014.

He started a program called AVID to help the students stretch themselves to succeed. He is also the youngest teacher to ever receive this award. He tells us that even thru all the change in regulations and paperwork and poor treatment of our future it still stands that teachers are the heart of hope for the future of our students. Our biggest enemy is the unknown future ahead, will it get worse or will it get better? “We need to make school the best 7 hours of our students day,” says Sean. We, above all else, cannot let these doors of opportunity close on any child.

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There is a future for me here. The world of motivators is calling out to me and I get closer and closer to hear exactly what they are saying every day. I have been around the block many times. I have been hurt and I have been happy. My life has always been an adventure. This blog is certainly where I started but It will never end till I stop breathing. I am going to make a difference in this world, you can wait and see or you can join me along the way. I am too strong for anyone to break down my cause and truthfully only care for those that support, encourage or just plain accept what I am doing here. Those that follow me are very helpful, those that share their positive opinions I am thankful for, and those that want to help me I am extremely grateful for. You are all amazing and I am grateful for any part you take in this journey. I know I cannot make this world a more positive place on my own but I guarantee WE can do it together.

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Finding Confidence

No matter what happens in your life you have to stay cool. You have to allow the reality that everything is going to be ok, run through your body. When you reach for big things in your life I can easily tell you from experience, it will never be a piece of cake. That cake is delicious but you need to watch out for the knife that is cutting those sweet pieces in your life. What you need for life’s endeavors is confidence. I could stop this speech with this one idea and just tell you that you can achieve anything in life by just being confident in the fact that you can do it, you will meet your goals.

When you set out on a new journey, it can be fun but the one I embark on currently has already been testing the confidence of many parts of my life. I am working with something I have never done in a place I have never been. The great part of this is I am adventuring to a place I have always wanted to go.

You do not need to find confidence, it is already in you, all you have to do is not be afraid to use it. It is a worthwhile but heavy toll as confidence puts you at the front seat of everything you want in life. You have to be ready to fail just as much as you succeed. You have to know when one way does not work try another. No one but you can take your confidence away. In the same confidence that you know you can breathe, know that you can do anything!

3 years ago today!

3 years of blogging and so many goals achieved. So many new goals and new experiences. The best part is there are more goals to come, more adventures to live, and more great people to meet! So excited to have kept up with this blog for so long. I was never a big writer before but practice makes perfect! I do not strive to be the greatest writer ever and my grammar and quick writing can show for that, but I do strive to make a positive difference in our world! My writing and Ideas can show for that!

This is where it all started: https://upwithmarc.com/2012/08/29/hello-world/

I LOVE ALL OF YOU WHO SUPPORT ME. I SEE GREAT THINGS IN OUR FUTURES!

So much gratitude,

UPwithmarc

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THE NEXT BIG THING

IT IS YOU!!!

Do you think you are important? Do you know why? We are all an important part of this world. It is only those with confidence that discover what makes them important. I always believed I was special. Not in a, I am the baby of the family, special but special in a way that some people in the world never see.

It took me till 33 to realize where I am meant to be. How many of you would have given up by then? I wanted to be a graphic designer sense junior high and I loved art more than anything, yet I struggled to find value in my 10 plus year career as a Graphic Designer. I had thought that trying my best and reaching the top of my career it would reveal my importance in the world. As design director it took major life changes to knock my off this ladder and realize I must try and find other ladders to climb.

After trying many things I found the ladder I needed to climb. I have been receiving signs for this all my life. I can make a baby smile and stare just by looking at them. I can be empathetic to a child as they learn life skills. I can relate to a teenager and help them succeed in the right direction. My new life was handed to me in the notion that everything happens for a reason. I was meant to talk to kids of all ages, and no more does a day go by where I don’t progress on making this happen.

It is not an easy road, it is not a short road, but no matter what; I guarantee that when I am ready, when the world is ready, I AM THE NEXT BIG THING.

My blog will be changing as my life has been shifting. I wrote quotes for a while, I made memes for a while, and I had a set posting schedule. I am and will be writing more inspiring post and stories for sure. I will be writing speeches that will be fine-tuned over time to be ready for a live audience. I do not have a time frame for you other than, it is happening right now, however I will still stick to my Wednesday posting.

I urge everyone to go discover what is meant to be part of their life. It is all right there in your head you just have to have the confidence, strength, and positive attitude to go after it.

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RIGHT NOW!

It was the sign of my watch I wore on the cruise ship stopping that said it was time to go home, which also lead to my move to Florida. I just found my watch among my stuff again to my surprise it was working again. I take this as another sign that I am were I am supposed to be. I think my fate lies deeper in the sign that my watch is not just working again but at the exact time that it is right now! WHOA! I do not have a straight answer for this occurrence and perhaps here and now is where I need to keep my mind. Maybe it’s a sign that right now is what matters most in my life…right now is what matters most in all our lives! (Ask The Ocean)

Life is hard. You must find yourself before you find success or love. Even when you do find yourself that quest for what you want most in life still seems so far away. The pillars of life collapse all around you as you move forward. It’s when those pillars of life slam down right in front of you that makes you want to turn around. You can’t turn around. You are so far into your quest for a true life to live, that turning around seems just as impossible as moving forward. Stuck you search the skies above for answers, but the real answers lie within. Every answer worth receiving in life is inside your heart and soul. The real challenge is not discovering that it is in there, it is actually finding it once you know. Life will bring you to your knees and when it does you must close your eyes and release all doubt that exists within. Leave more room for the answers to live your life to the fullest. You will not find what you are looking for in a past life or the next, you will find everything within you RIGHT NOW!

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Meme Monday (Dreams)

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Each day is a new day, with a fresh start!

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Are You For Real?

I am a real person with real goals and real failures and real success and real feelings. I am not trying to hide anything, but I will change everything I do not like in my life!

You owe it to yourself to be real! Sure in high school maybe it was fun to try to be real cool, but you know darn well that’s not the real you. What are your passions? What are your feelings? What are your dreams? Are you living your life or some other life?

Stop spending time trying to be someone you’re not because you will NEVER get anywhere you want to in life. Being real is about being yourself. No matter what people say and no matter what people think, your own personal approval of yourself is what matters. You will hit hard times but its your own character that is going to conquer those challenges! You got to live your life from your eyes not from all the eyes looking at you.

I have always considered myself to be original. I truly am on a quest to love all life has to offer and that includes bits and pieces from all over the world, all things, and all ideas. I want to accept everything into my life and use my favorite parts to shape my future and all of you would be wise to do the same. It is one step toward a more positive world one person at a time!

Love your life and love each new year of it. HAPPY NEW YEARS!

Variety Friday (Travel)

My life is all about goals; traveling and finding myself were very important ones. I am from Illinois and as of August I have found myself and now live near Orlando Florida! I wrote down most of the places on my journey from about 2 years ago to now and thought it to be quite impressive. Anything is possible and I have a past of so many good things that happened and a future just waiting for more! To all I say travel, live life, and get out there and find yourself if you have not already!

If you are interested here are most of the places that hold some great memories just in the last 2 years!

-Dallas, Texas
-Fort Worth, Texas
-Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania
-Fayetteville, West Virginia
-Kalamazoo, Michigan
-Coldwater, Michigan
-Atlanta, Georgia
-Toronto Ontario, Canada
-San Juan, Puerto Rico
-Basseterre, St. Kitts
-Bridgetown, Barbados
-Castries, St. Lucia
-Charlotte Amalie, St. Thomas
-Fort De France, Martinique
-Oranjestad, Aruba
-Philipsburg, St. Maarten
-Roseau, Dominica
-St. Croix, U.S. Virgin Islands
-St. John’s, Antigua
-Tortola, British Virgin Islands
-Willemstad, Curacao
-Key West, Florida
-St. Petersburg, Florida
-Fort Myers, Florida
-New Smyrna Beach, Florida
-Daytona, Florida
-Currently back in Illinois to visit everyone here for the holidays.

and many other places that I may not have mentioned!

Not a bad list for only 2 years time! Seek and you shall find adventure in your life. What places are you meant to travel to, near and far?

GOOD FORTUNE

Good fortune is something to be truly grateful for as it comes from gratitude itself. Good things happen to each of us throughout our lives but wouldn’t it be great if they happened all the time. You can change that. When good things happen just show tremendous gratitude and don’t brag about your good fortunes. Let those great feelings take over your body and it will just open the doors in your life for more things to come right in. That’s its guys Gratitude = Good Fortune!

How this idea really clicked in is quite traditional and story book worthy. With the string of good fortune, of which I am truly grateful for, buzzing around in my head this past Monday the picture was painted for this post. The house smells of fresh-baked cookies as I watch outside seeing all the birds and squirrels eating and playing outside I turned the Christmas music on. Then the holiday spirit clicked in and I began to really see how so much good fortune has brought me to this point in my life! All I wanted for this Christmas was the Christmas spirit and I have already got so much more than that! This has happened to me the past few years over and over, again and again. It was not just the positivism that I instill in my life but it is the gratitude I have shown for everything that has happened. There is more to come I KNOW IT!

I never intended my Christmas Eve post to be of Christmas spirit but I guess It was meant to be. As you wish others a very merry Christmas do not forget to wish yourself a merry Christmas as well. We spend so much of our time and generosity on others this holiday season and we forget to take care of ourselves. There is nothing wrong with looking after ourselves. Take a little time aside to wish yourself a Merry Christmas and let good fortune fill up your life.

Merry Christmas to all. I wish you all an Ultra Positive Holiday!

Gratitude = Good Fortune! Simple math the more you are grateful for,the more good things that will happen to you.

Dr. Eric Perry, PhD

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