Posted by upwithmarc
How often do you find yourself surrounded by negative people, people complaining all the time, or people that always seem to bring you down? Maybe you are asking yourself, “am I too positive”? Not a chance. Not one person has ever said in a serious manner that I am too positive. Being too positive does not exist in my opinion, it is merely an observation of someone that is certainly thinking negatively. There are many ways to stay positive around negative people!
You can attempt to understand what they are saying. Try and pinpoint what is bothering them. You may find that a lot of people complain and are negative just out of habit. There could very well be nothing wrong, it is so easy for humans in general to be negative. Being positive all the time certainly takes some effort. In an effort to stay positive around those that do like to complain, just give them the benefit of the doubt that there intentions are really not to be negative. But if it is something that continues it may be worthwhile to lightly say something to the person about it.
One of the main things you don’t want to do is take the negative words or actions personally. Directed at you or not, negativity is all about selfishness. Therefore it is really just directed at themselves and complaining for their own sake. You can certainly have some understanding for them. No need to knock them down any farther or make them any more angry. One key to remember, it is far worse to actually be that negative person then to be around them.
Above all do not encourage the negative behavior. Forgive them and show them some gratitude. There is no one situation where it is completely negative. You will always find Positives and if they cannot see them you know very well that you can! Try to show them those positives. Don’t open the flood gates of positivism, just let it trickle in and see if it catches.
It is super important to have a positive relationship with your spouse, your family, your coworkers, and your friends. If there is not a positive relationship you need to seek help or just walk away from it. Don’t forget excuses are negative too.
Being positive is a choice that not all of us choose. We have to respect that all of us are different. We can not in any healthy way control the person but we can control how we respond to them.
Posted by upwithmarc
It is one thing to be positive and another to stay positive. A positive attitude is going to get you were you want to be in life. The more negative hiccups you let bother you the slower it will take to get there.
“Some days you will wake up and realize the world around you is different. Mother Nature has changed, society has changed, your family has changed, your friends have changed, and YOU have changed. What once was, is now different. What once was may have never been what you really thought it was, and now it is different. Walk forward in your days, not backwards. Embrace what you have learned, embrace what makes you happy. Walk past those that have no positive impact on your life, and forgive those that are not worthy. Never forget what made you the way you are today. Never forget the memories that lighten up your life but always move forward. Stay positive and watch all the negativity disappear.”
About a year ago I thought things were perfect, I was ready to settle down, life was so good. But then I realized the 4 years I spent being my best with someone, was hardly worth the flush of a toilet to them. Dropped like I had no quality worth fighting for. I did not just fall down the escalator of life’s progression I was thrown right over the side. I hit bottom hard. It was a place I had forgotten about, a place where I did not want to be a part of my world anymore. That scared the crap out of me, but I simply said “NO”. It was time to put every muscle in my body in a new direction, a positive one. I got my butt back up found a new path and I am climbing again. Climbing higher and faster than ever. I owe it all to positive momentum. I have the biggest forward momentum of my entire life. When you get that taste of success in any part of your life its fuel to keep going and my tank is always full.
Always keep moving forward. Don’t let yourself or others hold you back. Set up some goals to get the ball rolling on where you want to be in your life. Once you start putting that effort forward, once you start achieving those goals that uphill climb starts to get flatter and flatter, easier and easier. Fill your life with Ultra Positivism and it will make your trek to the top that much easier. Hang out with people that have the biggest influence in your life. Listen to those people who give you the most support and encouragement along the way. When you pay attention to the positives, the negative naturally weed themselves out. Get enough positive momentum going you will very seldom be tripping over many negative on the way up. Instead you will be leaping over them. Every time you do meet a negative just tell yourself, “challenge accepted”! Figure out what you need to do to move past it. Don’t ever dwell on it, don’t let those setbacks sit in your head, keep going forward, keep going up. Keep that Ultra Positive momentum. Most importantly just have fun along the way. Your path to the top may be the hardest and longest path you have ever been on but you need to have fun along the way. If you are not having fun on your journey you need to really think about where you are going and why you are going there. If you are not happy along the way you are not going to be happy at the top. So GET EXCITED! You will be surprised how far a positive attitude will get you in life. Those that disagree will never make it as far as you can. Turn that frown upside down. Everything you do in life starts with a smile and as long as you keep smiling Ultra Positivism will never end, and your destination will get closer every day!
Keep the UP Momentum going.