“The sexiest thing in the world is being really smart……being thoughtful, and being generous. Everything else is crap”
-Chris Ashton Kutcher
Take everything you know about Ashton (his first name is actually Chris) on screen and take that out of context when you read this quote! Now I don’t follow celebrities and frankly I don’t really listen to things they say. My friend Amy showed me this video of a speech that Ashton gave at the Teen Choice Awards and it blew my mind. The quote above is what stuck out the most for me. Society has really done nothing to promote intelligence as attractive. If you think about it you are attracted to the things people do and say, so we are naturally attracted to intelligence. Guys, you can have your makeup covered gals with their designer revealing clothes, I search from within for my attraction. I am not at all saying getting dressed up how you want and putting make up on is a bad thing. I just prefer natural beauty and beauty from within. I mean I’ll never turn away from a girl with a beautiful smile, that is my weakness. Ok, before I get off track, intelligence is so important, I am not talking book smarts I am talking about life smarts. Good communication is something I coin as smart and attractive. Confidence is smart. Knowing what you are doing where you are going and the desire to continue to learn everyday from all parts of your life is what I believe Ashton is referring too. In an ever changing world, continued learning is very attractive.
Being thoughtful is really about putting yourself in other peoples shoes, respecting and understanding what is going on. Showing some compassion for what is happening in other peoples lives outside your own. Being generous has many definitions of course but I believe being generous is simply sharing what you have with others. It could be money, coffee, words of wisdom, new knowledge, or anything!
You can hold a life style to always want to learn more, to care about those around you and in your life, and selflessly give people all you can from your life and that is simply the most sexy anyone can be. Looks do not go farther than caching your eye, it is everything else that captures your heart!
It is important to always be yourself. Not everyone will agree with you but at least you can show some thoughtful understanding for their views. Have a great weekend everyone.
Here is the video I was talking about.